Much has been said about how to avoid ‘bad’ male dates. But what about all those women or girls who have no interest in your heart or mind, but only in what you can do for them? Do you want to be used? Do you want to be heartbroken? If you don’t, then you’d better put aside your masculine pride and learn to avoid those women, no matter how impressive they look. The telltale signs are there from the start, if your eyes and mind are open.

The following are 5 huge red flags that, if they appear, suggest that you should run in the opposite direction and never look back:

1 – She’s made it clear that she expects you to take her somewhere ‘fancy’ on your first date, on your account of course. Of course you want to make a good impression, so fast food places are out. However, there is nothing wrong with going for a nice cup of coffee in a nice place where you can relax; there is absolutely no need to go out to an expensive dinner on your first date. She shouldn’t expect it either. After all, they are trying to get to know each other, so the simpler but more comfortable and calm the setting, the better. If you’re going to a concert or similar, make sure you have time before or after for a quiet hour together to see if there’s a match. Again: it is not and should not be a super fancy place. There is no need. If she expects it, she is either a gold digger or a prima donna, and you should avoid both types if you want to be loved rather than used.

2 – She is much more interested in your car than in your thoughts. Whether she seems unimpressed with your modest car or in love with your expensive car, she is a clear sign of a materialistic person. Those who like ‘stuff’, as a rule, are not interested in emotional nurturing and mutual psychological support. So why bother?

3 – She canNo focus on yourself (especially your thoughts and emotions). All she seems to be doing is worrying about her clothes, other people’s clothes, her makeup, or the expensive wine you’ve ordered. When you try to open up to her, she gets a blank look on her face, like she’s going to sleep or just thinking about something else. This is a clear sign that she is unwilling or unable to connect with you: a sign that you should run now.

4 – She is flirting with other guys the moment you look away. If she can’t help but flirt with others now that she should be so into you, well, what happens later, when things ‘fade’ a bit (all relationships cool down a bit over time)?

5 – She constantly expects you to pay. Of course, if she is of modest means and you are wealthy, it is only fair that she should bear the greater financial burden of your mutual entertainment. However, when it’s her turn to do something for the two of you, she doesn’t have to be expensive. Does she ever invite you out for dinner or a cheap snack somewhere? Do you at least pay for something, like a smoothie or a movie? If he seems to treat you like a sugar daddy now, what makes you think he’ll ever change? It will never change, even if you lose your job one day. She will always expect you to pay.

So, if your first date(s) have revealed one of the red flags above, you should seriously consider whether this girl or woman is right for you. I would say absolutely no. But what if it has passed the test?