Have you ever kicked out a guy like you avoided him? Answer that honestly. Has there ever been a boy who was a good boy but you weren’t attracted to him? You wished you could but you didn’t, so you told him you just wanted to be friends. Actually, you probably didn’t care if you were still friends or not, but you didn’t want to hurt their feelings. Men often skip the let’s be friends and just disappear.

Have you ever dated a guy for a couple of months and then he got clingy? You started doubting the relationship and started creating a little distance. It seems this only made him more insecure and he started wondering where the relationship was heading and he started wanting to talk more and more about the relationship, dissecting everything you said. What did you want to do with this guy? I guess you wanted to disappear.

Some women talk so much about the direction of the relationship that they talk to themselves about the relationship. This turns women away when men do, why men are different. Most women try so hard to get the result they want that they kill attraction in the process.

I received an email from a customer. She had been chatting with this man online for a couple of days and they seem to be getting along. They made an appointment. Three days before the date, he canceled it. It looks like someone I had previously met was back in the picture. He was respectful enough to tell her the truth, but she still wondered if she should keep in touch if it worked. Are you kidding me? He just told her loud and clear why she disappeared. Fatal mistake, don’t cling to the missing man at all.

Men disappear for one of three reasons:

1. He is not that interested in you. It is not your fault. We cannot help it if a man is not interested in us, no more than we can help when we are not interested in them. Happens. Move on. Find a man who is interested in you. He is out there.

2. He is not ready for a relationship. You may think you are ready. You may have found it on a dating site. You would think that all men should be prepared. They state it in their profile. However, it does not mean that a man is actually ready, believe me. If you are not ready for a relationship, that is one of the main reasons why he disappeared.

3. It’s not him, it’s you. You did something to scare him. Something that didn’t make him feel safe. Maybe you got sticky. Maybe you started acting too much like a girlfriend too fast. Something killed her attraction, you can count on that. If he hadn’t, he wouldn’t be one of the disappearing men.